Friday, June 16, 2006

The weekend is here. Ut oh, time for a booty call.

How many of you are surprised by today’s title? Well, don’t be. What you should be surprised with is how many unmarried Christians are having sex: about 70 percent.

The reason for my title is that a friend of mine recently asked me if I had updated my blog. “Yes,” I said, “On Thursday.” He said, “Good, the weekend’s coming.” And he laughed.

I wasn’t that tapped into what he was saying because my mind was elsewhere, but later I realized what he meant. It’s when the pace of the week slows and the weekend kicks in that many Christian singles feel a little lonely. They have a little extra time on their hands from Friday night after work until Sunday night.

So, what should you do during the weekend when you’re feeling a little lonely?

1) Plan ahead. Don’t wait until Friday night to figure out what you’re going to do for the weekend.
2) Stop night owl-ing. Don’t stay up late just because you don’t have to get up early in the morning. It’s the late-night hours that cause you to thinking about getting a little frisky.
3) No “visiting” and “hanging out.” This one will get you every single time. Do not spend your time hanging out with an ex-girlfriend, a close friend of the opposite sex (especially someone you’re particularly comfortable with)… that means no bible study, no movies as just friends, don’t get together to talk or any of the other many reasons lonely people can think of to get together with the opposite sex.
4) Stay prayerful. Have a dedicated devotional (praise & worship) time throughout the entire weekend. That will keep your mind on God and keeping your mind on God will keep your mind off sex.
5) Read the word. Find out what God says about things that you’re dealing with in your life. Concentrate on areas of your life that you need to grow in: finances, work, stewardship, etc.

Other things you can do are participate in a hobby, volunteer at a community center or hospital, write a book, take up a sport… there are a variety of activities and things you can do that don’t cost money that will keep you busy.

Remember: Just because you’re alone, you don’t have to be lonely.

Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact. William James


Anonymous said...

Hey Cousin Petula! I'm so glad you finally updated the blog! I'd been visiting often after the last one in April, but to my disappointment, there weren't any updates....I've made the commitment and celebrated it openly at my church with a Vow of Purity Ceremony. I'd already made the commitment and subsequently started taking a Song of Solomon class, and your blog came out during that timeframe. Please, keep writing, believe it or not, people are reading this and things like your blog are so key to maintaining a life of celibacy. The tools you detail in your updates are very practical and easy to implement into daily life. Thanks for writing it! Love, Ashley

Petula Wright said...

Ashley, I am so proud of you! Thank you for being a dedicated reader of this blog. I will do my best to post at least twice a week.

I want you to stay encouraged. God will honor your commitment and bless you in it. Your experience will not only bless you, it will also bless others!

I love you!

Josh said...

Having extra time on your hands can so easily lead to wandering hands - on your computer keyboard and elsewhere.
The K9 Internet filtering software is very effective at blocking the images that might tempt the Christian single from the path, and is completely free!
This wonderful program can easily be customized to prevent access to chat rooms and to allow only Christian dating sites, and to keep out 'borderline' categories such as intimate apparel.
All you need to take advantage of this service is for your accountability partner to set the administrator's password. This prevents the program from being changed or uninstalled, and allows them to view your browsing history.
It's an excellent incentive to find more constructive things to do on a weekend!