Thursday, June 22, 2006

Stop the presses.

The previous post (yesterday’s) caused such an uproar or, should I say, backlash. Let me be clear: I believe that while you’re single you should focus on being single. I am not saying that I believe you should never get married. Yes, I did say that in my experience it would be in your best interest to remain single as long as possible.

You know the old saying, “The grass is always greener on the other side”? Well, that applies to everything. A lot of times, single people believe that they’ll be happier when they get married. The same applies to poor people, fat people, young people. The think, “When I ____________ (get money, lose weight, get older) things will be better.”

That’s not necessarily true.

The other part of this is that if you allow people’s opinions, viewpoints or putdowns to affect how you conduct yourself then yes that could also change – or “put a kink in” – your relationship with God. Before you’re married you have an awesome opportunity to put your all into your relationship with God then nothing can shake it, change it or hinder it. I don’t think I need to explain that any further, but feel free to comment and let me know your thoughts, criticisms…

“If you are close enough to someone to know they have a problem, you are close enough to help.” – Bruce Cotter, author, speaker & interventionist.


Josh Justice said...

" would be in your best interest to remain single as long as possible."

Thanks for being willing to take a stand for celibacy. I made a decision to become celibate last October, and have never had more joy in my walk with God.

I'm looking forward to keeping up with this blog for support and community! This is the first resource I've managed to find online. Do you know of any others?

I've actually just started a celibacy blog as well. I think a big part of my focus will be on Biblical foundations. Feel free to check it out!


Petula Wright said...

Thanks so much for your comments and encouragement. I'm proud of your commitment and I am really impressed with your blog. I will read it indepth a little later this weekend, but I like what I saw. As soon as I learn how to work this blog better I will add your link as well... I really appreciate you adding mine. I will also keep in touch with you as far as resources. I have a file full and I need to go through and explore them again to make sure they're still current.

Stay encouraged and keep up the good work: I love the first paragraph of your blog.